Finding Your Way Through The Messy Middle

A 90-day Guided Journey Through the Chaos of Life Transitions — with a Proven Framework and Nervous System Tools to Regulate, Rebuild, and Begin Again

With Mahshad Aryafar, Transitions Coach, Registered Psychotherapist

Life has changed, maybe suddenly, maybe slowly.

But it’s no longer what it was.

Maybe it was the breakup you didn’t see coming.

Or the job you worked so hard for that now feels like a cage.

Maybe you got promoted, received the degree, said “yes” to the next chapter, but instead of clarity, you feel… off.

You love your child, your partner, your new path, but something underneath is stirring.
A loss, confusion, shedding of skin…

Most “change” programs jump to goals and action plans.

But in real life, transition is an inner process:

  • Endings need honouring, grieving, and unlearning, so you’re not dragging old patterns forward.

  • The Messy Middle asks for nervous system steadiness, reflection, and renewed self-trust, so clarity can emerge.

  • New Beginnings need gentle experimentation and structured support, so your next steps fit who you’re becoming.

This program meets you in each stage with practices that regulate the body, clarify the mind, and open space for a truer beginning.

When You Join The Program, You’ll receive:

  • ✺

    6 Core Modules (short, digestible lessons):
    Clear, compassionate guidance through Endings → Messy Middle → New Beginning.

  • ✺

    Worksheets & Reflection Tools:
    Practical prompts that turn insight into momentum.

  • ✺

    Bi-Weekly Live Group Calls (60–90 min):
    Coaching, Q&A, and breakout rooms for connection and support.

  • ✺

    Private Facebook Community:
    A warm, moderated space to be witnessed, ask questions, and share wins. You’ll be part of this community for as long as you like after the program ends.

  • All material will be available for a full year after the program begins.
    Because transitions have a circular quality, you may want to revisit the support again and again.

PLUS You’ll Receive These Bonus lessons

  1. Cultivating Inner Safety with Leila Nadimi, Registered Psychotherapist (somatic & IFS-informed).

  2. Ritual & Altars for New Beginnings with Bahar Ghafelehbashi, Registered Psychotherapist (grounded practices for honoring what’s emerging).

  3. The Resistance & Curiosity (R&C) Framework with me. This bonus module lesson is my original framework for working with the two core nervous system responses to the unknown, and will be sent as a pre-module lesson.

« Testimonials »

  • Mahshad offered me valuable insight and feedback at a time when I had a lot of self-doubt. She helped me get to know myself better so that I could speak with clarity and confidence. She is a competent coach and I deeply value the time we’ve spent together and the progress she helped me make in my life.

    Nicole C. Sales executive ~ Canada

  • Working with Mahshad was simultaneously eye-opening and heart-warming. Her gentle shepherding enabled me to find talents and strengths within myself that had previously been inaccessible. With her guidance, I learned to decipher thinking patterns that were limiting me and to cultivate new pathways for creative leadership. I am truly grateful for this experience.

    L.C., Science Writer @ NASA, USA

  • It is amazing how Mahshad was able to validate me and my feelings, yet push me outside of my comfort zone at the same time. Her technique really helped me to recognize how I could gain the perspective and strength to make the bold shift I needed to move through.

    C.T., Regional Manager, Switzerland

  • As creative freelancers, we often lack the guideposts and stability that come with a regular career. It’s easy to drift about and feel lost without the structure. Working with Mahshad, I have been able to find new perspectives and take my creative practice to wonderful new places where I have been able to sustain a healthy creative business.

    James B., Illustrator, Canada

  • Working with Mahshad in her group sessions was a grounding experience. Her unique process helped guide my overstimulated mind through complex problems in a way that brought not only clarity but a deeper understanding of my role within the situation.

    Tania S. Educator, Canada

  • Working with Mahshad has been incredibly impactful for me since going through a very intense and transformative plant medicine retreat. She is one of those very unique and talented spirits that has a strong intuition and knows how to take you to those places inside yourself that hold the wisdom.

    M. R., Executive, Switzerland

The right time is now

☆

The right time is now ☆

Join today

This is the first time I’m offering the program, and I’d love for you to be part of it.

As a founding member, you’ll receive special pricing of $547 CAD as a thank-you for walking with me from the start.

(The full program price will be $997 CAD starting January 2026)

A woman with dark, curly hair sitting on a chair, smiling, with a white wall background and a small fireplace to her left. Text on the image reads 'Finding Your Way Through The Messy Middle by Mahshad Aryafar' and a website URL.
Finding Your Way Through The Messy Middle
$547.00
One time
$287.00
For 2 months

A 90-day Guided Journey Through the Chaos of Life Transitions; with a Proven Framework and Nervous System Tools to Regulate, Rebuild, and Begin Again

✓ 6 pre-recorded video teaching modules
✓ Downloadable worksheets/practices for every lesson
✓ Bi-weekly live Q/A calls
✓ Private Facebook Group to be part of for as long as you like
✓ Bonus teachings from experts in the field

The curriculum explained

  • This is a practical framework for navigating an ever-changing world. Simple step-by-step path for meeting any unknown in life

  • Honouring What Was and Making Space for What’s Next

  • Regulating Your Inner World Before Reimagining the Outer One

  • Making Peace with the Unknown, Listening Within, and Finding Fertile Ground in the Pause

  • Learning to work with our resistance instead of against it by honouring what is, and using curiosity as the inner compass to move forward.

  • Recognizing the quiet signs of new growth and learning to trust the inner signals guiding you forward.

  • Crafting simple, aligned next steps. Support your beginning with rituals, rhythms, and community.

  • With Leila Nadimi, RP: Simple tools to regulate our nervous system and create an inner anchor for navigating the storms of transition.

  • With Bahar Ghafeleh Bashi, RP: Connect to the Intelligence of Body, Myth, & Nature to Establish Practices (rituals) for New Beginnings.

Screen titled 'Bonus Lessons' displaying three panels with headshots and descriptions of different coaching lessons on a beige background. The first panel shows a woman with dark hair in a patterned top, titled 'Resistance & Curiosity' with text about navigating life's challenges. The second panel has a woman with short dark hair, titled 'Cultivating Inner Safety', with text about psychotherapy, yoga, and mindfulness meditation. The third panel features a woman with long dark hair, titled 'Before the Bloom: Caring for What is Emerging', with text about connecting to body intelligence, myth, and nature for new beginnings. The bottom right corner shows the logo for 'The Bold Shift' and a copyright notice.

* LIMITED TIME ONLY *

* LIMITED TIME ONLY *

Founding cohort rate: $547 CAD

Regular price: $997 CAD (starting Jan 2026)
Offered as a thank-you for joining the very first cohort

Ready To Join?

Finding Your Way Through The Messy Middle
$547.00
One time
$287.00
For 2 months

A 90-day Guided Journey Through the Chaos of Life Transitions; with a Proven Framework and Nervous System Tools to Regulate, Rebuild, and Begin Again

✓ 6 pre-recorded video teaching modules
✓ Downloadable worksheets/practices for every lesson
✓ Bi-weekly live Q/A calls
✓ Private Facebook Group to be part of for as long as you like
✓ Bonus teachings from experts in the field

Meet your guide

Mahshad Aryafar
Transitions Coach, Registered Psychotherapist, Cultural Navigator

A woman with black, wavy hair and light skin smiling while sitting on a sofa in a living room.

I’ve lived a lifetime of transitions: political upheaval, war, immigration, career reinvention, motherhood, heartbreak, healing, and along the way, I became a guide for others walking through their own thresholds.

Before I turned six, the Iranian revolution reshaped my world. By the age of 24, I had left everything behind and started over in Canada. I’ve since navigated multiple career changes, personal losses, and the quiet rebuilding that happens after each ending.

These experiences taught me how to navigate uncertainty not just with survival, but with purpose.

Now, with 14+ years of professional experience as a registered psychotherapist, leadership coach, and facilitator, I help others navigate life transitions with clarity, courage, and nervous system steadiness.

This program is built from the tools I wish I had, and the ones I now share with clients every day.

✺ Frequently asked questions ✺

  • If something has ended, or a new thing has begun. If like has changed and you feel off. If everything seems ok but inside, something doesn’t feel right, you’re in transition.

  • You don’t need more pressure. This program was designed with people in transition in mind; people whose nervous systems are already carrying a lot. Modules are released gradually for each phase, with ample time between each Module. Everything is recorded. Move at your own pace and join live calls, or connect via our private Facebook group.

  • Change is the external event, and transition is the internal process we go through.

  • The program was built with compassionate pacing, and you’ll have access to everything for an entire year, so you can go back to the material and pick up where you left off. 
    You’ll also continue to be part of the Facebook group and can ask questions and get support there for as long as you need it.

  • It’s the space between when something has ended (either an external change or an internal sense of ending), but something has yet to begin. It’s the unknown and fog of change that comes to us after the ending. It’s the fertile ground where we assess the past and plan for the future we want.

  • The Messy Middle is the unknown that activates out nervous system, so we either get stuck trying to re-create the past, or bypass it altogether and make new plans. Most change management programs do the same by skipping the middle part of transition and planning for the new beginning.

  • No, this is not group therapy.  This is a coaching program that draws on my experience as a Registered Psychotherapist, but it is not a clinical service. It’s a supportive group learning experience, not a replacement for therapy.

  • Modules are released every 10 days, and we’ll have live Q/A calls every two weeks. The Bonus material is released based on the program’s emerging topics.

The Three ‘C’s of Transitions are

COURAGE to let go

CLARITY of vision

CONFIDENCE to take action

~ Mahshad Aryafar

Founding Cohort Discount

☆

Founding Cohort Discount ☆

Sign up today and receive the Founding Cohort price of $547 CAD for the entire 90-day program

(Regular price $997 CAD as of January 2026)

A woman with long black curly hair smiling, wearing a beige blouse and sitting with her arms crossed. Text on the image reads 'Finding Your Way Through The Messy Middle by Mahshad Aryafar' and includes a website URL.
Finding Your Way Through The Messy Middle
$547.00
One time
$287.00
For 2 months

A 90-day Guided Journey Through the Chaos of Life Transitions; with a Proven Framework and Nervous System Tools to Regulate, Rebuild, and Begin Again

✓ 6 pre-recorded video teaching modules
✓ Downloadable worksheets/practices for every lesson
✓ Bi-weekly live Q/A calls
✓ Private Facebook Group to be part of for as long as you like
✓ Bonus teachings from experts in the field