Finding Your Way Through The Messy Middle

A 90-day Guided Journey Through the Chaos of Life Transitions — with a Proven Framework and Nervous System Tools to Regulate, Rebuild, and Begin Again

With Mahshad Aryafar

Alignment Mentor, Transitions Coach, Registered Psychotherapist

Life has changed, maybe suddenly, maybe slowly.

But it’s no longer what it was.

Maybe it was the breakup you didn’t see coming.

Or the job you worked so hard for that now feels like a cage.

Maybe you got promoted, received the degree, said “yes” to the next chapter, but instead of clarity, you feel… off.

You love your child, your partner, your new path, but something underneath is stirring.
A loss, confusion, shedding of skin…

Most “change” programs jump to goals and action plans.

But in real life, transition is an inner process:

  • Endings need honouring, grieving, and unlearning, so you’re not dragging old patterns forward.

  • The Messy Middle asks for nervous system steadiness, reflection, and renewed self-trust, so clarity can emerge.

  • New Beginnings need gentle experimentation and structured support, so your next steps fit who you’re becoming.

This program meets you in each stage with practices that regulate the body, clarify the mind, and open space for a truer beginning.

When You Join The Program, You’ll receive:

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    6 Core Modules (short, digestible lessons):
    Clear, compassionate guidance through Endings → Messy Middle → New Beginning.

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    Weekly Live Group Calls (60–min):
    Themed group coaching and Q&A to enhance your learning experience and support your process

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    Worksheets & Reflection Tools:
    Practical prompts that turn insight into momentum.

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    Private WhatsApp Community:
    A warm, moderated space to be witnessed, ask questions, and share wins.

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    Lifetime access to all teaching material
    Because transitions have a circular quality, you may want to revisit the support you need again and again.

PLUS You’ll Receive These Bonus Lessons

  1. Cultivating Inner Safety with Leila Nadimi, Registered Psychotherapist (somatic & IFS-informed).

  2. Ritual & Altars for New Beginnings with Bahar Ghafelehbashi, Registered Psychotherapist (grounded practices for honoring what’s emerging).

  3. The Resistance & Curiosity (R&C) Framework with me. This bonus module lesson is my original framework for working with the two core nervous system responses to the unknown, and will be sent as a pre-module lesson.

« Testimonials »

  • Mahshad offered me valuable insight and feedback at a time when I had a lot of self-doubt. She helped me get to know myself better so that I could speak with clarity and confidence. She is a competent coach and I deeply value the time we’ve spent together and the progress she helped me make in my life.

    Nicole C. Sales executive ~ Canada

  • Working with Mahshad was simultaneously eye-opening and heart-warming. Her gentle shepherding enabled me to find talents and strengths within myself that had previously been inaccessible. With her guidance, I learned to decipher thinking patterns that were limiting me and to cultivate new pathways for creative leadership. I am truly grateful for this experience.

    L.C., Science Writer @ NASA, USA

  • It is amazing how Mahshad was able to validate me and my feelings, yet push me outside of my comfort zone at the same time. Her technique really helped me to recognize how I could gain the perspective and strength to make the bold shift I needed to move through.

    C.T., Regional Manager, Switzerland

  • As creative freelancers, we often lack the guideposts and stability that come with a regular career. It’s easy to drift about and feel lost without the structure. Working with Mahshad, I have been able to find new perspectives and take my creative practice to wonderful new places where I have been able to sustain a healthy creative business.

    James B., Illustrator, Canada

  • Working with Mahshad in her group sessions was a grounding experience. Her unique process helped guide my overstimulated mind through complex problems in a way that brought not only clarity but a deeper understanding of my role within the situation.

    Tania S. Educator, Canada

  • Working with Mahshad has been incredibly impactful for me since going through a very intense and transformative plant medicine retreat. She is one of those very unique and talented spirits that has a strong intuition and knows how to take you to those places inside yourself that hold the wisdom.

    M. R., Executive, Switzerland

  • After every session with Mahshad, I feel inspired. Like I can spread my wings!

    S.B., Author, Canada

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Life itself is found in the transitions

Finding Your Way Through the Messy Middle (Waitlist)
$999.00
One time
$333.00
For 3 months

A 90-day guided program to help you move from reacting to life’s changes to intentionally creating your next chapter, with tools that support clarity, steadiness, and purposeful momentum.

✓ 6 pre-recorded video teaching modules
✓ Weekly themed live & supportive coaching calls
✓ Downloadable worksheets/practices with every lesson
✓ Private Community WhatsApp Group for questions and support
✓ Bonus lessons from experts in the field

The curriculum explained

  • This is a practical framework for navigating an ever-changing world. Simple step-by-step path for meeting any unknown in life

  • Honouring What Was and Making Space for What’s Next

  • Regulating Your Inner World Before Reimagining the Outer One

  • Making Peace with the Unknown, Listening Within, and Finding Fertile Ground in the Pause

  • Learning to work with our resistance instead of against it by honouring what is, and using curiosity as the inner compass to move forward.

  • Recognizing the quiet signs of new growth and learning to trust the inner signals guiding you forward.

  • Crafting simple, aligned next steps. Support your beginning with rituals, rhythms, and community.

  • With Leila Nadimi, RP: Simple tools to regulate our nervous system and create an inner anchor for navigating the storms of transition.

  • With Bahar Ghafeleh Bashi, RP: Connect to the Intelligence of Body, Myth, & Nature to Establish Practices (rituals) for New Beginnings.

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The Three Pillars of Transitions are

COURAGE to let go

CLARITY of vision

CONFIDENCE to take action

~ Mahshad Aryafar

Finding Your Way Through the Messy Middle (Waitlist)
$999.00
One time
$333.00
For 3 months

A 90-day guided program to help you move from reacting to life’s changes to intentionally creating your next chapter, with tools that support clarity, steadiness, and purposeful momentum.

✓ 6 pre-recorded video teaching modules
✓ Weekly themed live & supportive coaching calls
✓ Downloadable worksheets/practices with every lesson
✓ Private Community WhatsApp Group for questions and support
✓ Bonus lessons from experts in the field

✨ Meet your guide ✨

Mahshad Aryafar
Alignment Mentor, Executive Coach, & Registered Psychotherapist

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I’ve lived a lifetime of transitions: political upheaval, war, immigration, career reinvention, motherhood, heartbreak, healing, and along the way, I became a guide for others walking through their own thresholds.

Before I turned six, the Iranian revolution reshaped my world. By the age of 24, I had left everything behind and started over in Canada. I’ve since navigated multiple career changes, personal losses, and the quiet rebuilding that happens after each ending.

These experiences taught me how to navigate uncertainty not just with survival, but with purpose.

Now, with over 15 years of professional experience as a registered psychotherapist, leadership coach, and facilitator, I help others navigate challenges and transitions with clarity, courage, and nervous system steadiness.

This program is built from the tools I wish I had, and the ones I now share with clients every day.

What you may be wondering …

  • If something has ended, or a new thing has begun. If like has changed and you feel off. If everything seems ok but inside, something doesn’t feel right, you’re in transition.

  • You don’t need more pressure. This program was designed with people in transition in mind; people whose nervous systems are already carrying a lot. Modules are there for your self-paced study. Move at your own pace and join live calls, or connect via our private WhatsApp group.

  • Change is the external event, and transition is the internal process we go through.

  • The program was built with compassionate pacing, and you’ll have access to everything for life (as long as the program is running, so you can go back to the material and pick up where you left off. 
    You’ll also continue to be part of the WhatsApp group, where you can ask questions and get support for as long as you need it.

  • It’s the space between when something has ended (either an external change or an internal sense of ending), but something new has yet to begin. It’s the unknown and fog of change that comes with all changes and endings. It’s the fertile ground where we assess the past and plan for the future we want.

  • The Messy Middle is the unknown that activates out nervous system, so we either get stuck trying to re-create the past, or bypass it altogether and make new plans. Most change management programs do the same by skipping the middle part of transition and planning for the new beginning.

  • No, this is not group therapy.  This coaching program draws on my experience as a registered psychotherapist, but it is not a clinical service. It’s a supportive group-learning experience, not a replacement for therapy.

  • Modules are available in your course portal for you to study and refer back to as you need, and we’ll have weekly themed live calls to support your own becoming. There are bonus lessons in the course portal to add new perspectives to your transitions toolbox.

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Finding Your Way Through the Messy Middle (Waitlist)
$999.00
One time
$333.00
For 3 months

A 90-day guided program to help you move from reacting to life’s changes to intentionally creating your next chapter, with tools that support clarity, steadiness, and purposeful momentum.

✓ 6 pre-recorded video teaching modules
✓ Weekly themed live & supportive coaching calls
✓ Downloadable worksheets/practices with every lesson
✓ Private Community WhatsApp Group for questions and support
✓ Bonus lessons from experts in the field